How to control your anger.

[Nancy]

How to control your anger.

 

 

Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. However, it can be a problem if you find it difficult to keep it under control.

"You can control your anger, and you have a responsibility to do so," says clinical psychologist Isabel Clarke, a specialist in anger management.

Recognise your anger signs

Your heart beats faster and you breathe more quickly, preparing you for action. You might also notice other signs, such as tension in your shoulders or clenching your fists. "If you notice these signs, get out of the situation if you’ve got a history of losing control," says Isabel.

Count to 10

Counting to 10 gives you time to cool down, so you can think more clearly and overcome the impulse to lash out.

Breathe slowly

Breathe out for longer than you breathe in, and relax as you breathe out. "You automatically breathe in more than out when you’re feeling angry, and the trick is to breathe out more than in," says Isabel. "This will calm you down effectively and help you think more clearly."

Managing anger in the long term

Once you can recognise that you’re getting angry, and can calm yourself down, you can start looking at ways to control your anger more generally.

Exercise can help with anger

Bring down your general stress levels with exercise and relaxation. Running, walking, swimming, yoga and meditation are just a few activities that can reduce stress. "Exercise as part of your daily life is a good way to get rid of irritation and anger," says Isabel.

Looking after yourself may keep you calm

Make time to relax regularly, and ensure that you get enough sleep. Drugs and alcohol can make anger problems worse. "They lower inhibitions and, actually, we need inhibitions to stop us acting unacceptably when we’re angry," says Isabel.

Get creative

Writing, making music, dancing or painting can release tension and reduce feelings of anger.

Talk about how you feel

Discussing your feelings with a friend can be useful and can help you get a different perspective on the situation.

 

 

Created with some info from hnsinformed.com.

Edited October 25, 2020 by Nancy

[rambozo37]

For myself i rarely get super mad. But i found a great way to take out my anger/frustrations

 

I bought a punching bag! Almost everyday after work i beat it up. Yesterday i gave my PB a hell of a beating after that i felt great and relaxed 😛 

 

[DeKing]

41 minutes ago, rambozo37 said:

For myself i rarely get super mad. But i found a great way to take out my anger/frustrations

 

I bought a punching bag! Almost everyday after work i beat it up. Yesterday i gave my PB a hell of a beating after that i felt great and relaxed 😛 

 

Works with drums too x) 

[K3rmit]

This might be worth to try..

 

 

[TheFriendlyVEGAN]

12 minutes ago, DeKing said:

Works with drums too x) 

 

I was gonna add "buy a drum set"

I've broken many drum skins  and sticks in fits of rage though 😕 

 

 

 

When I'm sad or angry and play ET, then I try to use a panzefaust, at that moment there's nothing more satisfying than blowing myself to bits and taking someone with me.

I'm trying to grow in the sense that I don't want others to "suffer" or be affected by my negative emotions, so that's why I'm trying not to play ET when angry, for example (that's why I also dropped the "friendly" part of my nickname)

[rambozo37]

50 minutes ago, K3rmit said:

This might be worth to try..

 

 

I went to a place like that! it was named "casse cité" in Montreal... don't know for sure the English translation. Made me chose my weapon, you gear up then went into a room and all hell broke lose 

[Gameplan]

About the only time I get angry is playing Engy on Gold Rush and half the team is no where near the tank  I'm curious how others handle that situation?

[DeKing]

46 minutes ago, TheFriendlyVEGAN said:

When I'm sad or angry and play ET, then I try to use a panzefaust, at that moment there's nothing more satisfying than blowing myself to bits and taking someone with me.

I'm trying to grow in the sense that I don't want others to "suffer" or be affected by my negative emotions, so that's why I'm trying not to play ET when angry, for example (that's why I also dropped the "friendly" part of my nickname)

 

When I heard that I really think you need to breathe  

 

Sometimes when you have too much things in your mind your can not think properly

 

I have, like everyone, some moments of hate, of rage, but I accept it. That's like fear, it's a just a reaction of your mind, sometimes it's needed, sometimes it's not.

And when you accepted it, that's just become energy, because you have surpassed what's locking you in this state of mind.

Emotions are naturals we can't change it , but negative or positive that's our point of view.

We lived in a system whoes goes faster and faster and asking us more and more. That's not always easy to keep the calm, and the feet on the ground, but with a negative way of thinking, that's worst 

[AirRaid]

58 minutes ago, Gameplan said:

About the only time I get angry is playing Engy on Gold Rush and half the team is no where near the tank  I'm curious how others handle that situation?

Frustration is the father of anger and depression. Frustration leads to anger, and if not dealt with in a healthy manner, it become depression.  

 

I get frustrated more so than getting angry in playing this game. Moving the tank on Gold Rush is one of the most difficult objectives across many ET maps. It takes teamwork, as everyone knows. I play engi 95% of the time. When on this map teammates do not help, I keep trying to move the tank. It's frustrating. If I/we can get the tank into the courtyard before time expires, at least in some respects it is a win. In my mind the best way to handle frustration is breaking things down in to baby steps and set some alternate objectives, while not giving up on the primary objective. This is how, I deal with my frustration. 

 

I believe Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. I'm not insane, and as Sheldon said . . . "my mother had me tested."   

[Hitch]

I don't usually get angry at the game itself. Of course, there are moments of frustration when the team isn't in sync but never anger. 

 

What does make me angry is big ego players who act like bullies and look down on others. This really grinds my gears and rubs me the wrong way. Chances are if you're an ass online then you must be a really unpleasant person in real life too.

[RendeL]

When I used to play lots of etpro, I once smashed one mouse into table and once also one keyboard, as it started to be so worn and didn't register button. After the smash, I also cracked it in half against the chair handle 🤣

 

These days only uneven teams raises my bloodpressure. To see many fraggers on same team with scores 200+ while them bashing newbies. And smartasses are another thing.

I take a deep breaths and try to think calm...

[Sisje]

2 hours ago, rambozo37 said:

For myself i rarely get super mad. But i found a great way to take out my anger/frustrations

 

I bought a punching bag! Almost everyday after work i beat it up. Yesterday i gave my PB a hell of a beating after that i felt great and relaxed 😛 

 

I would love to get a punching bag! I always am frustrated when I have to drive my car for 30 minutes because people just never figured out how to drive their car properly... 
Edit: punching the bag, is also a great workout! I love boxing
 

 

9 minutes ago, RendeL said:

When I used to play lots of etpro, I once smashed one mouse into table and once also one keyboard, as it started to be so worn and didn't register button. After the smash, I also cracked it in half against the chair handle 🤣

 

These days only uneven teams raises my bloodpressure. To see many fraggers on same team with scores 200+ while them bashing newbies. And smartasses are another thing.

I take a deep breaths and try to think calm...

I once did that with my laptop.. Smashed it and broke the harddrive that was in it 🙄 I don't even remember why 😂

In general I don't think I get really mad as my opinion is that life sucks, get over it.. 

Edited October 25, 2020 by Sisje

[GHARIB]

What I say

I never have outbust of anger while I am playing. I am very relax while I am playing.

 

 

The truth:

 

 

 

[Hitch]

I think if we're talking about anger in general not related to games, I've had one really bad moment.

 

I was having an argument with a family member, it got to a point where I was going to punch them in the face but of course I wasn't going to hit them so instead I ended up directing my anger at a cupboard that was built from some really thick wood.

 

Almost broke my hand, it was bruised for weeks. That was stupid of me. Instantly regretted it so yeah anger makes you do stupid shit.

Edited October 25, 2020 by Hitch

[XeRoiX]

0:45 and 6:24 they're playing ET