Smacking a child. Yes or no?

[Rabidraccoon]

wait... is this my kid or a strangers?

[Kladkakan]

Yes but not very hard, like a small slap. I have been raised like that

[bell reavue]

I was never physically disciplined and I wouldn't do that to my children. I just think it's an out-of-date disciplinary method and there are plenty of other ways to teach children without using violence. I think the line starts to get fuzzy between physical discipline and child abuse, the difference between a smack on the arm and a smack on the face. I just don't see how you can inflict physical pain on a child to teach them a lesson, there are many other options.

[Chuckun]

@bell please read topic before posting on such opinionated threads.. nobody said anything about inflicting actual pain. All I've seen mentioned (in a supporting way), is mild smacks on the arm or ass to inflict SHOCK not actual pain.

 

And again, stop using the word violence. Violence suggests lack of control or restriction. Totally controlled and minor physical discipline is NOT violent in any way shape or form.

 

[Panini*Hobbit@mp3]

I remember when I was growing up, the wooden spoon was the one thing you feared the most.. I got my fair share of smacks on the ass and on the hand but never have I been smacked on the face thank god. To be fair though, I'm pretty sure I deserved it as well

 

I think it is acceptable to discipline your child with a smack on the ass or on the hand every now and again. Without that, the kids would think they would get up to mischief day in day out with no consequences. It's been said already but there is a huge difference between smacking your child on the ass and smacking your child on the face. I've seen some parents smack their children while in town because they weren't doing as they were told but I guess they were better off doing that than to not give a shit about their children and suddenly the child runs out under a car like a click of a finger..

[speedfact]

wait... is this my kid or a strangers?

Your own kid...why would you smack a strangers kid.

@ alex thats child abuse...he needs to feel the wrath of a nutcracker.

 

Also I still think that given your kid a little reminder would help em out. Yeh takin away stuff would work but then again kids are smart, they just go to friends houses or do sumthin else..not really a punishment lol. A good spankin will do wonders to solve behavior. And not all kids turn into serial killers cause of a spankin, I mean then my whole generation would be serial killers, along with the generations before us. But Im not sayin Im for child abuse. thats just wrong period.

[bell reavue]

@bell please read topic before posting on such opinionated threads.. nobody said anything about inflicting actual pain. All I've seen mentioned (in a supporting way), is mild smacks on the arm or ass to inflict SHOCK not actual pain.

 

And again, stop using the word violence. Violence suggests lack of control or restriction. Totally controlled and minor physical discipline is NOT violent in any way shape or form.

 

 

Thank you but I did read the topic. A mild smack on the bottom does cause pain, even if it's an appropriate level of pain. Look at all the people who remember the pain from being disciplined. I use the word violence because, in my eyes, a smack is violence, it is just much more innocent than what people typically associate with the word. I understand that what you are talking about is not detrimental to a child's health. My point is that I prefer non-violent methods of discipline. It's not that I think this physical discipline is evil.

 

On a separate note, I agree that the point of the smack is to cause shock and send a message to the child that "if you do this, this happens to you" but that message isn't send without the pain (which those people who were physically disciplined will remember). It's the difference between simply yelling at your child to shock them, and smacking them.

 

And again. I'm not talking about child abuse, I'm referring to physical discipline that causes pain but is not an inappropriate amount of harm to the child, such as a paddle to the ass.

[Chuckun]

Pretty sure the only people talking about any real pain are those who say they were punched, or hit with weapons (ie spoons).. That's not what I'm referring to, so no I don't think it's painful.. Only time I was ever hurt by a spanking was the one time my mother did it instead of my father, whereby she WAS being violent because she did it out of anger, and smacked me in the face as hard as she probably could..

 

Away from that, no.. Physical discipline in the appropriate manner, does not and should not actually HURT. If it does, then you're clearly unleashing some anger there somewhere, not just dishing out correct physical discipline.

[MaKy]

I used to get smacked across the back of the head, and though it may have caused slight brain damage I have no ill feelings towards my parents for it. I'm sure I deserved it.

[General]

If theres many better methods to teaching kids not to do something, then hopwcome when physical discipline basically ended, kids started gettin bratty as fudge?

 

Seriously My friend saw a 8 year old carelessly drop her iphone and break it. the girl started SCREAMING and the mom just says "OK, ill buy you a new one, just sop crying"

 

I honestly think physical discipline is good in moderation.

 

Telling a child to just to go to their room and think about what theyve done etc just makes em go "Ok, ill sleep.." Or play their PC or console. Or, if all else, cry until they get what they want.

 

People are way too soft these days.

[Chuckun]

I used to get smacked across the back of the head, and though it may have caused slight brain damage I have no ill feelings towards my parents for it. I'm sure I deserved it.

 

Pssst! I think there is some damage! xD

 

I'm j/k dude you're awesome! <3

[Vanaraud]

If theres many better methods to teaching kids not to do something, then hopwcome when physical discipline basically ended, kids started gettin bratty as fudge?

 

Seriously My friend saw a 8 year old carelessly drop her iphone and break it. the girl started SCREAMING and the mom just says "OK, ill buy you a new one, just sop crying"

 

I honestly think physical discipline is good in moderation.

 

Telling a child to just to go to their room and think about what theyve done etc just makes em go "Ok, ill sleep.." Or play their PC or console. Or, if all else, cry until they get what they want.

 

People are way too soft these days.

 

Well can´t agree with those statements. Theres a huge difference in raising a child and discipline them and not doing anything at all and saying to every act: "oh its fine".

And now taking the assumption that all those kids havent been raised should be beaten the hell out is way too wrong. Whats about starting with just saying to this kid you broke it you don´t get new one because mommy had to work hard for it.

 

Im not saying kids aren´t raised nowadays but its also wrong to go to the other extreme way.

 

Peace out

Vanaraud

[SunLight]

I think that physical punishments are generally useless, people should raise their kids properly in the first place, trying to teach them right values every day, talk to them, etc.

And not hitting them because they have personality problems themselves and/or because they failed to teach them how to behave in the first place.

 

And what if your kid does something really really wrong, but I mean really? Should you kill him/her?

 

In most cases being told off feels as bad as being hit, and if that is not the case then it means the kid wasn't raised properly or has serious problems that require some treatment, that's what I think.

[CHAMBArelli Eduardo]

I think some punishments makes part of the education, and smack a child is a way to punish and educate.

[CaulkLiquor]

I think some punishments makes part of the education, and smack a child is a way to punish and educate.

 

If you want to teach them that violence is a proper response....

Edited February 4, 2012 by CaulkLiquor