CheepHeep Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Cheep News I have a really good friend. He is kind, generous and very caring. The only thing is, whenever we plan to go out somewhere, he is always late. I get really infuriated with him most of the time, especially when he I've been waiting more than an hour, but maybe its time I understand why this occurs instead of assuming the worst in him. Are you like this? Do you have a friend like mine? Wanna find out why? Read On. _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ There are few habits as infuriating as someone making us wait. But, despite what may be running through your mind as you’re kept waiting again, it’s unlikely your friends and colleagues are just being selfish. A look into the psychology of lateness offers a glimpse into a mind that that may be malfunctioning. But there’s also more than one fix. No, late people aren’t rude and lazy Perceptions of unpunctual people are almost always negative — even if misguided. “It is easy to perceive them as disorganised, chaotic, rude and lacking in consideration for others,” says Harriet Mellotte, a cognitive behavioural therapist and a clinical psychologist in training in London. “Outside of my clinical practice, others being late is something that can particularly get under my skin!” But, many late people are at least somewhat organised and want to keep friends, family and bosses happy. The punctually-challenged are often excruciatingly aware and ashamed of the damage their lateness could do to their relationships, reputations, careers and finances. “While there are those who get a charge out of keeping others waiting, if you’re typical, you dislike being late,” Diana DeLonzor writes in her book Never Be Late Again. “Yet tardiness remains your nemesis.” Excuses, excuses Some excuses, particularly for acute lateness, are fairly universally accepted —an accident or illness, for example. But others aren’t so easy to swallow. Some late people will pass it off as a symptom of being big-thinking and concerned with loftier matters than time-keeping, as an endearing quirk, a mark of doing one’s best work under pressure, or having the body clock of a night owl rather than a lark. Joanna, a teacher in London who didn’t want her surname used, says her reputation for being unpunctual can sometimes be attributed to a difference in opinion. “A friend will ask me to come over, and they’ll say ‘come any time from seven,’” she says. “But if I do turn up at eight or later, they’re annoyed.” Being consistently late might not be your fault. It could be your type. The punctually-challenged often share personality characteristics such as optimism, low levels of self-control, anxiety, or a penchant for thrill-seeking, experts say. Personality differences could also dictate how we experience the passing of time. In 2001, Jeff Conte, a psychology professor at San Diego State University ran a study in which he separated participants into Type A people (ambitious, competitive) and Type B (creative, reflective, explorative). He asked them to judge, without clocks, how long it took for one minute to elapse. Type A people felt a minute had gone by when roughly 58 seconds had passed. Type B participants felt a minute had gone by after 77 seconds. ................................................ To read on, click here : http://www.bbc.com/capital/story/20170209-why-some-people-are-always-running-late ____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
schNee Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 “It is easy to perceive them as disorganised, chaotic, rude and lacking in consideration for others,” - ye thats me also good with procrastination tbh. i try to come in time since sometimes i felt bad and i missed a flight once. but i need like hours to get ready. whenever i start in the end i always have no time anymore. getting distracted by my own thoughts and habits. but im kinda creative so ye i guess thats good 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Raskin Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Well...if know the person is going to make me wait i agreee on a time and i show up 15 min late so they wait on me or i not have to wait on them so long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheepHeep Posted February 13, 2017 Author Share Posted February 13, 2017 Well...if know the person is going to make me wait i agreee on a time and i show up 15 min late so they wait on me or i not have to wait on them so long. On one occasion, my friend was supposed to pick me up ta 1pm to go for lunch. He came to my place at 3pm to say he couldnt make it and that he had to do something for his cousin. He has done a lot for me, so i let it slide.........but the thing is....he does it constantly... Meh. I heard that on the internet. If you are a wizard, it means you are a 30yr old + virgin . Truth comes out kat0n Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat0n Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 On one occasion, my friend was supposed to pick me up ta 1pm to go for lunch. He came to my place at 3pm to say he couldnt make it and that he had to do something for his cousin. He has done a lot for me, so i let it slide.........but the thing is....he does it constantly... Meh. I heard that on the internet. If you are a wizard, it means you are a 30yr old + virgin . Truth comes out kat0n Guess what else comes out? CheepHeep 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheepHeep Posted February 13, 2017 Author Share Posted February 13, 2017 Guess what else comes out? CheepHeep Please enlighten me Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raskin Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 It has become apparent Cheepers you need make a rule to youself ..give them 30 or (maybe) 45 min..if no courtesy call,move on to something else you wanna do and if they say where were/are you..I'd say you didn't call so i moved on ..unless you are imprisoned because you not have a car..a bicycle..a unicycle..a skateboard.. new sneakers 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheepHeep Posted February 13, 2017 Author Share Posted February 13, 2017 It has become apparent Cheepers you need make a rule to youself ..give them 30 or (maybe) 45 min..if no courtesy call,move on to something else you wanna do and if they say where were/are you..I'd say you didn't call so i moved on ..unless you are imprisoned because you not have a car..a bicycle..a unicycle..a skateboard.. new sneakers I agree. That bloody hen was supposed to lay that egg 2 hours ago. I guess i have to get another chick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kat0n Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 Please enlighten me Well you're coming out, that was the joke (check coming out on google) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CheepHeep Posted February 13, 2017 Author Share Posted February 13, 2017 Well you're coming out, that was the joke (check coming out on google) Oh you little eggcrack. According to people here, I am now a female male homosexual chicken. Does that make me like male or females? :off topic I guess.....hmm, be sure to spread this thread before its too late! (pun intended) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raw64life Posted February 13, 2017 Share Posted February 13, 2017 I'm always early to everything and can't stand people who are late. I want to put a Flava Flav clock on these people. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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